An Open Letter to my “Friend”
To my dear blog friends, I am again moderating the comments for this blog. So if you don’t see your comment after you submitted it, it will surely appear after I approve each of them. Sorry for such hassle, but yesterday, somebody posted a comment on this blog (I already unapproved it) and used my nickname (maline) to log and even my email address to post this comment on my earlier blog Look of the year:
Couldn’t believe you even thought of joining….i dont have a second thought that you even won’t go thru the initial screening…u need to consult a “dental”surgeon” and get teeth implants…u damn need a complete overhaul first… u might wanna use the money you got from the tax office in Australia which you forged, pretended that you worked as a houskeeper, and thus gave your identity to someone else…if they found out about this….that’s it! There goes your dream of a nice future! Be careful! Is this the kind of person who believes in God? Don’t think so.
In reply to this comment, I am posting an open letter to this impostor friend, who have tried to use my name, hacked my emails and friendster account, tried to ruin my family by maligning me to my husband, sending me bitter and sarcastic sms, and always giving me prank calls. I am posting this open letter so my real blog friends will be warned, just in case this somebody use my identity again. So here it goes:
Dear “Friend”,
I am writing you today, and I hope you could read this letter, and hopefully set everything straight. I am writing now in bullet form just to show you the differences in our writing style and paragraph compositions (foremost, i don’t use ellipsis in my sentences). Anyway, here is my message to you my dear friend:
- I would like to thank you, that in those numerous times that you harassed me in different media - sms, calls, emails, friendster, and now my own blog - my faith strengthens the more. After each harassment, I silently utter a prayer for you that all the hatred in your heart stop. I admit I got irked when I learned you sent malicious messages by hacking my emails and when I started receiving those nasty messages from you. I am only human, so I naturally got upset of course. But not anymore - gosh, it’s almost two years now that you are pestering me - I am so used to it that I am not affected anymore. In the first place, God has given me this trouble (and you!) because He knows my capacity and I can handle this.
- You try to threatened me before in your texts about the things you claim that I don’t know about my husband. You said when I know everything, I will surely cry a river and I will be miserable. My dear, you don’t have to threaten me because I might already know the things that you are trying to hide. A marriage, or any relationship, is not always a bed of roses. There will always be problems and challenges - these are all the spices of life. But staying in our marriage is our decision - despite all the challenges we face. You don’t have any right to dictate us what to do or what we should feel. I always believe that God put us together, and we have been through many trials before. Love is patient and kind, I just hope you find that kind of love in your heart.
- You said I am not strong enough. Then, you don’t really know me and I am sure you don’t. God is my strength and I know myself better, and like what I replied to you before, your opinion doesn’t matter to me. There are lots of life challenges that i already went through before, but always God has been my refuge - ALWAYS!
- Yes, I admit, I have a terrible set of teeth
, even if I had braces years back. But it’s not the set of teeth that defiles a person, but what is going out of his/her lips. And you are right, I need an overhaul. I hope someday I could have one - better yet, I wish of getting a make over from The Swan or Extreme Makeover. That would be cool
but still, despite these flaws, I believe that I am beautiful! In the eyes of God, everyone is beautiful! Nobody is perfect, and for sure you are not, too, and you have insecurities and imperfections yourself.
- I never pretended to be a housekeeper because I really worked as a housekeeper in Australia while finishing my Masteral course! I am not ashamed of it because that’s a decent job and I don’t have to prove to you anything, including my capabilities and worth as a person. All the other false accusations you told me via sms, I just hope after you sent them, you are happy. I pity you, because for two years, you are holding grudge against me for reasons I don’t know. I hope every time you try ruining my reputation, you are happy and you have your peace of mind.
- You said, hide and seek, because you don’t want to tell me who you really are. This is only your game and I am not into this game. You may continue hiding, and I am not actually looking for you, because I know, in the right time, everything - everyone- will be revealed and everything will end. But I am sure, that right now God knows what you are doing, God knows what you are thinking, God knows what you are planning to do next against me and my family, and God knows who you really are. I am contented with that so you are the only one playing your silly hide and seek game - that’s cowardice of hiding.
- I know you are trying to jeopardize all our plans in coming back to Australia. That’s alright. I have a strong belief in God’s better plans for our family - this is enough assurance for me and Albert. So if an Australian dream is not for us, be it. Surely, God will put everything and everyone in their proper places, in His own right time! For sure, if God closes a door, He will surely open lots of windows! Yet, we are still thankful that we’re given the opportunity to experience the life Downunder.
- I know after you read this blog, you will do everything to get even, and most likely, I will get sms tirades from you again and pester me with calls - I might even get another death wish from you. I just hope when you call me again, please answer so I could hear your beautiful voice. But in spite of all of these, I will continuously pray for you that you will be happy with your life even at my expense. God has the full control of everything - that’s enough for me.
- So for all the nasty things that you said against me and for all the wrong judgments you told about me, I just continuously pray for you because in the end, it will only be God who will judge us all. He knows the truth and He knows me more than anybody else.
- Finally, let me thank you because every time I receive your cynical sms messages, answer your prank calls, or even find out the other negative things you brilliantly set up against me, I realize how lucky I am because God is testing my faith and resilience. Again, THANK YOU! Because every time you mock me in your messages, I get to assess how blessed is my life and how strong I am spiritually. And I never thought I could be this patient and forgiving - that despite all the things you have done to me, I am not harboring hatred for you. You have become an instrument to test me. So I just wish you find true happiness and peace of mind.
God bless to you and all your loved ones, and I hope they (and you, too) won’t experience this similar adversity.
Sincerely,
Maline (the real malinesky - beautiful and happy!
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hi Maline, thanks for the comment; take as much time as u need.
re ur post; that’s not a friend..tsk.tsk.
great reply though. i hope that person comes to her/his senses.
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Very well said, Sis! Hope that person will gather her wits soon! A admire you for keeping your cool…
Godbless you and your family!
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go! go! go! girl! You are admirable and i hope and pray this letter puts an end to some lunatic’s unkind deeds towards you.
God bless you.
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Hi Maline,
God bless you for your strength and courage in facing such terrible challenges. I know God has protected and guided you throughout your ordeal with that person. What you wrote to that person is most appropriate and I really admire you for that. I hope everything will turn out to be fine for you and your family. Thanks for the very touching post. God bless you and your family always.
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Hi Malinesky,
I also pray for that person’s deliverance from hatred. It is really a matter of choice - to love or to hate. Sad that that person has chosen to do the latter. Jesus said that we should guard our hearts and minds and lips otherwise, we will yield to negative things, feelings and thoughts words that could bring death rather than LIFE.
I know that you are looking pass through this person, as you know that you are battling against evil spirits, that’s why you are able to forgive this person despite of everything. And the only weapon to victory over these kinds is the power in the word of God. No more, no less. Like a true sheep, keep on moving forward. Stay on the road to your end goal, these are just destructions. Just remember, they can’t be in the same “road” you are in, that’s why they try hard to keep destructing you from the sidelines. So never turn to the left nor to the right. Look ahead, look forward to the Light.
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Oh Maline! 2 years of all these?! Blessed are those who are meek, and the Lord’s hand is obviously upon you. I cannot imagine going through this kind of ordeal. May the Lord continue to guide you and bless you even more. I agree that ultimately, He is in control and He will sure balance the scales in His own perfect time. Take care always.
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tsk, tsk, very well said, maline. oo nga two years, that was when you asked me about an email din, which i didn’t get because my email account got phished.
that’s correct, continue praying, and whatever happens God is with you.
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Wow, I am mortified. How does this person know your phone number and such? Best of luck with all of this and I know your faith will certainly help you.
My Mother once had a lady who stalked her, she would call and put out flyers around town telling lies on my Mom. My Mom finally had to get the police involved, it was pretty scary for a while.
Again good luck!
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Go girl! I admire the way you handle this by seeing things in a positive light.
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I am sadden to hear someone is harassing you here. I am glad you still keep your composure instead of fighting back with bad words.
My advice to you is to backtrack the first bad mail and read between the lines, and I am quite sure you will get a hint of this culprit.
Hope you overcome this problem soon through GOD’s grace.
Thanks.
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Dear guys, thanks for all your kind words! And you’re all right, i should be more focused on keeping in the positive side. Scary sometimes coz I don’t know how or what this person thinks. But just thinking that God is always beside me to protect me and the rest of my family, anxious thoughts go away.
Yeah, I read the emails numerous times looking for hints, and my intuition is leading me to a person I knew from OZ, but I am not really 100%sure. And like what I have said, God knows her and He knows what she is doing (together with some of her friends). For sure, all of this nonsense will end. Again, thanks to everyone!
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I know, you’re fine… because when someone has strong faith in GOD she/he is in good hands… Just pray a lot harder sis it keeps us going. I’m always your true friend.
Always,
Paz
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wow I admire you sis for dealing with this in such a matter of fact way and not having the hatred towards this really hateful person. hay sana matauhan sya and would move on with his/her life and stop bothering you.
my best friend have almost similar experiences to you and it really took a toll on her coz the her stalker/hater friend follows her almost everyday..
God bless and good luck sis!
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you’re definitely a good friend.
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Gosh. I don’t know whether to be more sad for your situation or more redeemed in feeling that humankind has hope after all - what with your generous and loving spirit through this.
God bless YOU for blessing your ‘friend’ who seems to be in emotional and spiritual crisis. I am going through a similar challenge but *my* friend is not trying to destroy my reputation…You have continued to inspire me.
Love, Samsara
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i, too, am in a situation … internet-related din. reading your post has made me realize that i shouldn’t harbor feelings of hate or anger … instead i should just pray and hope.
thank you for this post, sis!
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How can people be so bad? It makes me feel sad to think that there are people out there like this.
I admire your strength in going through two years of this and I admire your attitude to this dreadful person..you have risen above it all and shown a dignity of spirit!! Well done!
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Damn.. That’s sad! Do you have a clue who it is?
If not, can you find out the IP address where he/she send those e-mails from and report it to your ISP!? This way you might do something about it..
Off course you can do other things when you know his/her IP address: HACK him/her!
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may topak yang kaibigan mo. sabihin mo magpatingin sa doktor. Kung ako sayo ipapadampot ko na yan sa NBI. Asar ako sa mga ganyang patalikod dumale. Kalimitan yang mga ganyang tao di masaya sa buhay nila. kaya pati ibang tao kinakaladkad nila sa kataranrtaduhan nila.
i-spin mo sis ng tinidor haha sa akin blog sya mag comment at tingnan ko kung umubra sya mga sekyu ko dun.
Dapat mga bloggers talaga chinecheck muna ip ng commenter kasi para walang impostor.
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