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To my dear blog friends, I am again moderating the comments for this blog. So if you don’t see your comment after you submitted it, it will surely appear after I approve each of them. Sorry for such hassle, but yesterday, somebody posted a comment on this blog (I already unapproved it) and used my nickname (maline) to log and even my email address to post this comment on my earlier blog Look of the year:

Couldn’t believe you even thought of joining….i dont have a second thought that you even won’t go thru the initial screening…u need to consult a “dental”surgeon” and get teeth implants…u damn need a complete overhaul first… u might wanna use the money you got from the tax office in Australia which you forged, pretended that you worked as a houskeeper, and thus gave your identity to someone else…if they found out about this….that’s it! There goes your dream of a nice future! Be careful! Is this the kind of person who believes in God? Don’t think so.

In reply to this comment, I am posting an open letter to this impostor friend, who have tried to use my name, hacked my emails and friendster account, tried to ruin my family by maligning me to my husband, sending me bitter and sarcastic sms, and always giving me prank calls. I am posting this open letter so my real blog friends will be warned, just in case this somebody use my identity again. So here it goes:

Dear “Friend”,

I am writing you today, and I hope you could read this letter, and hopefully set everything straight. I am writing now in bullet form just to show you the differences in our writing style and paragraph compositions (foremost, i don’t use ellipsis in my sentences). Anyway, here is my message to you my dear friend:

1. I would like to thank you, that in those numerous times that you harassed me in different media - sms, calls, emails, friendster, and now my own blog - my faith strengthens the more. After each harassment, I silently utter a prayer for you that all the hatred in your heart stop. I admit I got irked when I learned you sent malicious messages by hacking my emails and when I started receiving those nasty messages from you. I am only human, so I naturally got upset of course. But not anymore - gosh, it’s almost two years now that you are pestering me - I am so used to it that I am not affected anymore. In the first place, God has given me this trouble (and you!) because He knows my capacity and I can handle this.
2. You try to threatened me before in your texts about the things you claim that I don’t know about my husband. You said when I know everything, I will surely cry a river and I will be miserable. My dear, you don’t have to threaten me because I might already know the things that you are trying to hide. A marriage, or any relationship, is not always a bed of roses. There will always be problems and challenges - these are all the spices of life. But staying in our marriage is our decision - despite all the challenges we face. You don’t have any right to dictate us what to do or what we should feel. I always believe that God put us together, and we have been through many trials before. Love is patient and kind, I just hope you find that kind of love in your heart.
3. You said I am not strong enough. Then, you don’t really know me and I am sure you don’t. God is my strength and I know myself better, and like what I replied to you before, your opinion doesn’t matter to me. There are lots of life challenges that i already went through before, but always God has been my refuge - ALWAYS!
4. Yes, I admit, I have a terrible set of teeth , even if I had braces years back. But it’s not the set of teeth that defiles a person, but what is going out of his/her lips. And you are right, I need an overhaul. I hope someday I could have one - better yet, I wish of getting a make over from The Swan or Extreme Makeover. That would be cool but still, despite these flaws, I believe that I am beautiful! In the eyes of God, everyone is beautiful! Nobody is perfect, and for sure you are not, too, and you have insecurities and imperfections yourself.
5. I never pretended to be a housekeeper because I really worked as a housekeeper in Australia while finishing my Masteral course! I am not ashamed of it because that’s a decent job and I don’t have to prove to you anything, including my capabilities and worth as a person. All the other false accusations you told me via sms, I just hope after you sent them, you are happy. I pity you, because for two years, you are holding grudge against me for reasons I don’t know. I hope every time you try ruining my reputation, you are happy and you have your peace of mind.
6. You said, hide and seek, because you don’t want to tell me who you really are. This is only your game and I am not into this game. You may continue hiding, and I am not actually looking for you, because I know, in the right time, everything - everyone- will be revealed and everything will end. But I am sure, that right now God knows what you are doing, God knows what you are thinking, God knows what you are planning to do next against me and my family, and God knows who you really are. I am contented with that so you are the only one playing your silly hide and seek game - that’s cowardice of hiding.
7. I know you are trying to jeopardize all our plans in coming back to Australia. That’s alright. I have a strong belief in God’s better plans for our family - this is enough assurance for me and Albert. So if an Australian dream is not for us, be it. Surely, God will put everything and everyone in their proper places, in His own right time! For sure, if God closes a door, He will surely open lots of windows! Yet, we are still thankful that we’re given the opportunity to experience the life Downunder.
8. I know after you read this blog, you will do everything to get even, and most likely, I will get sms tirades from you again and pester me with calls - I might even get another death wish from you. I just hope when you call me again, please answer so I could hear your beautiful voice. But in spite of all of these, I will continuously pray for you that you will be happy with your life even at my expense. God has the full control of everything - that’s enough for me.
9. So for all the nasty things that you said against me and for all the wrong judgments you told about me, I just continuously pray for you because in the end, it will only be God who will judge us all. He knows the truth and He knows me more than anybody else.
   
10. Finally, let me thank you because every time I receive your cynical sms messages, answer your prank calls, or even find out the other negative things you brilliantly set up against me, I realize how lucky I am because God is testing my faith and resilience. Again, THANK YOU! Because every time you mock me in your messages, I get to assess how blessed is my life and how strong I am spiritually. And I never thought I could be this patient and forgiving - that despite all the things you have done to me, I am not harboring hatred for you. You have become an instrument to test me. So I just wish you find true happiness and peace of mind.

God bless to you and all your loved ones, and I hope they (and you, too) won’t experience this similar adversity.

Sincerely,

Maline (the real malinesky - beautiful and happy!)

Are you stressed out in work, everyday problems and other energy-consuming nonsense? There’s one thing to do - take it slow and RELAX!! Who doesn’t want a stress-free life anyway? But I think, no matter how heavy our problems are, we should still have some time for relaxing.

If we could afford it, of course, we can always have go to a getaway out of town, or even out of the country. But we shouldn’t look further. Even in the comforts of our homes, we can always relax and re-charge both our tired bodies, minds, and spirits. One of my therapies before when we were still in Australia is having a long hot bubble bath while reading a magazine or a book. It works wonders for me.

My hubby and me are planning some home renovations, and if our budget permits it, I would like to install new shower enclosures and a steam shower. I am looking over the net for designs and I am so impressed with all the innovative and hi-tech bathroom showers - I even found one with a foot massager and a mini tub! New designs are compact and leak proof so it can be installed wherever there is a water supply making them much more versatile. Wow!

Heat and steam soothe and relax tense muscles so when treat ourselves by having a steam shower, we give our body a chance to unwind. Relaxing is an antidote to stress, which numerous studies prove contribute to the development of many diseases. Do I have to add that relaxation gives us more energy and better problem solving abilities? And of course, relaxing will definitely sooth our emotions - so less anger, less stress, less anxieties and less headaches, if not migraine!

So try to relax and have a steam shower so you can experience its soothing comfort. It will definitely make you feel good.

I haven’t posted in the last 2 weeks. My last postings are fewer now unlike before. Writer’s block? Or am I simply lethargic? I dunno. Or maybe because I cut off my internet service in the house last week. Well, that’s more acceptable. I am transferring to a new ISP, which I thought will be installed very soon. I’m wrong. I thought after paid the fee, they will install the internet connections immediately. However, after 8 days they haven’t contacted me yet as to when the modem for the DSL will be installed. I follow them up but they always say my application is still in process. Fine, but one lesson I learned, I shouldn’t have believed when they said my phone line and DSL connection are installed within 7 days.

So the only internet connection I use is the wi-fi spot in our faculty office (I am obviously writing this post here now, hehe ). But even if I have some ideas to write last week, I just couldn’t find enough time coz I attended many seminars in preparation for the new school year. The classes start tomorrow (yes, a Thursday - why not move it to June 10 after the holiday?) Anyways, when all things are cleared up and I have settled on all my assigned classes ( chemistry again! :D), I will definitely write more blogs. So please bear with my no-nonsense post for now.

God bless everyone!

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I have been away from my computer for the last 4 days. No blogging, no checking of emails, no entrecard dropping -nada. I don’t know, maybe last week was too hectic for me. I finished laboratory activities for my chemistry class, finished the lectures and prepared the exams. After that, the university hosted a 3-day orientation program, the second day of which, we spent in a depressed community where we were assigned 1 family each to spend the whole morning with. I will tell you about this humbling experience, it’s truly an eye opener for me.

Anyways, because of my toxic schedules in the last few weeks, I wasn’t able to hear Sunday mass in the last 3 weeks in a row. I didn’t even attended the TV mass at Studio 23. I always found excuses not to - not feeling well, raining, too late to dress up. I know this should not be the case.  After the community immersion program I joined, there was a mass after the reflections session.  Oh, how I miss the Lord!  I know He’s never far from me nor even left me.  I was just too busy to notice that in everything I do or everywhere I go, He’s always there.

God is truly wonderful!  As I was thinking of what to share with you today, I found Psalm 139 - The Lord is always near.  This is the dose I need, and hope to inspire you, too!  Have a nice week!

Psalm 139 The LORD Is Always Near

(A psalm by David for the music leader.)

¹You have looked deep into my heart, LORD,

and you know all about me.

²You know when I am resting or when I am working,

and from heaven you discover my thoughts.

³You notice everything I do

and everywhere I go.

⁴Before I even speak a word,

you know what I will say,

⁵and with your powerful arm you protect me

from every side.

⁶I can’t understand all of this!

Such wonderful knowledge is far above me.

⁷Where could I go to escape from your Spirit

or from your sight?

⁸If I were to climb up to the highest heavens,

you would be there.

If I were to dig down to the world of the dead

you would also be there.

⁹Suppose I had wings like the dawning day

and flew across the ocean.

¹⁰Even then your powerful arm

would guide and protect me.

¹¹Or suppose I said, “I’ll hide in the dark

until night comes to cover me over.”

¹²But you see in the dark because daylight and dark

are all the same to you.

¹³You are the one who put me together

inside my mother’s body,

¹⁴and I praise you because of the wonderful way

you created me. Everything you do is marvelous!

Of this I have no doubt.

¹⁵Nothing about me is hidden from you!

I was secretly woven together deep in the earth below,

¹⁶but with your own eyes you saw

my body being formed.

Even before I was born, you had written in your book

everything I would do.

¹⁷Your thoughts are far beyond my understanding,

much more than I could ever imagine.

¹⁸I try to count your thoughts, but they outnumber

the grains of sand on the beach.

And when I awake, I will find you nearby.

²³Look deep into my heart, God,

and find out everything I am thinking.

²⁴Don’t let me follow evil ways,

but lead me in the way that time has proven true.

(Contemporary English Version)